The other day, someone jokingly asked me if I was going to make a “BOY POWER” Tee to go along with our “GIRL POWER” Tees. For a minute, I felt badly for seemingly excluding all the wonderful boys out there, and I later started to design a tee just for boys. It featured a fist bump and the words, “BRO CODE.” My husband walked in the room, and I asked him what he thought. He laughed a little and then asked me if I knew what the term, “Bro Code,” meant. I admitted that I really hadn't thought about it. Naive, I know. I was just trying to be fair.
We looked up the definition of “Bro Code” in the Urban Dictionary. Oh. I didn't realize that the meaning was so full of misogyny! Everything that term stood for negated the reason for making the “Girl Power” tees in the first place. This made me think about what “GIRL POWER” really means to me.
"A feminist is someone who believes in the power of women just as much as anyone else. It's equality, it's fairness, and I think it's a great thing to be a part of." --Zendaya
I love this quote.
To me, GIRL POWER is about standing up for equality. It is about recognizing the bond that can only happen between women. It is the recognition that as females, we are able to become mothers; and I don't just mean biologically. Whether we have children biologically, through adoption, surrogacy, or other means, becoming a mother is special and amazing. It also bonds us women together in a way that is unique and different than any bond between man and woman. GIRL POWER is also about the right to choose to be a mother or not. Not every woman feels that motherhood is a part of her plan, and the right to choose is a form of GIRL POWER in itself.
GIRL POWER is about teaching our daughters to value themselves as strong, smart, capable, humans, and to stand up for their rights. It is about women paving the way instead of following in fear. It is about respecting and revering the girls and women who came before us, and helped pave the way for our rights and freedoms. And equally important, it is also about teaching our sons to respect girls and women as equals. It starts at home. For instance, it is our responsibility as parents to teach our children why saying things like, "run like a girl" are not okay.
GIRL POWER is not a battle of the sexes. It is not a saying that is meant to put others down. It is not about superiority or inferiority. To me, it is meant to bring awareness to the fact that we are all human, and we all need room to find our place in this world without fear, judgement, or injustice based on our gender.
So no, there will be no Bro Code Tees coming from this small shop, but that doesn't mean I have forgotten about all you wonderful boys and men out there. To my sweet son, I promise to teach you respect, and the importance of seeing everyone as individuals. We should all be celebrated for our own talents, intelligence, creativity, and kindness.
Until next time…